Happy June! I must admit that I am already on vacation mode. Before I head off lounging, beaching and plopping my backside poolside, I just want to write about my sister Francine’s amazing journey of making a dream she has had on the back-burner for a while her reality.
I am using my sister’s experience because I was able to share in this dream as I watched it all unfold step by step. If you happen to follow me on Instagram, you may have seen that my sister recently published a book with four co-authors, Maria Jemmott, Shirley Merith, Manjit Singh and Paula Smellie. The book is called “Walking Through and Other Stories.” This did not happen overnight, and it took a lot of work on their part but I want to express that dreams can be achieved…if you are willing to work for them.
We know that it is essential to have a positive and affirming mind to achieve a dream, but there are also practical steps involved. Reflect on your dream and make sure it is feasible. For example, my dream may be to be signed to Elite Model agency and be on the runways of Paris, New York and Milan and have my face be the cover of Vogue. Obviously this dream is not doable. It is simply not realistic. I am not 20, I am not model slim and tall with delicate features and chiseled cheekbones. To sum it up if you have all this going for you, and you want to model, then go for it. However, you must do your research and due diligence in order to create a means to an end. I may want to be the next Beyonce, but again is this doable? Can I sing? Do I have voice training? Can I dance and perform? Am I in an age group where I can focus wholeheartedly on being the next Queen B? Again, make sure this dream is a dream you can achieve in realistic, concrete steps.
What will these concrete steps entail and how will you achieve them? Although my sister was already gifted with the written word, she thought it wise to enroll in some night school courses in creative writing at college and university. She felt she needed to hone the skills that already had potential. Getting feedback from fellow students and professors helped her grow and develop her craft. Speaking of budget, how much will you have to spend to achieve this dream? What will it cost you to go to meetings, take courses and workshops, etc? Francine had to budget for these courses and cut back on certain luxuries like those fancy coffees at cafes to pay her tuition. She also had to budget to self-publish her book with her collaborative authors.
How will you prioritize your time? You may have to think about that in great depth. I love to watch my Housewives on Bravo, I love to nap and read fiction novels in my spare time, but if I want to be the next Beyonce, these little pleasures would have to be put aside for singing classes and practice. Perhaps you will have to sacrifice and work at it early mornings, late nights and weekends as you work at your dream.
What about your support system? Our family was very happy and supportive of Francine, and we showed up to express our support at their various book signings. I would say though, that the biggest support and cheerleader was her husband Rick. He had to step in as single dad for their son many times for bath time, bed time and gymnastic classes each Saturday while Francine went to night classes, met her writing group and went to their book signings on weekends. Rick has his hobbies too, but he made sure his “me time” did not conflict with Francine as she worked toward her dream. A supportive spouse and partner can make a world of difference.
I know my dreams of being Ivy Blue’s (or is it Blue Ivy’s) mom are pipe dreams. Alas, my time has passed. Truth be told I could never sing, dance or was in any way bootylicious, but I do have feasible dreams. We all do. I for one will take a good look at the steps these ladies had to undertake to become a published author and apply practical, concrete steps to achieve them.
What about you?
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