Thanks to the Fall back time change, I am getting up about half an hour earlier before my alarm sounds. This leaves me with a little extra time to peruse the morning paper at work with a coffee, since I am getting there earlier now before I begin my shift.
I love reading the advice columns. Does anyone else dive into Dear Abby or Ask Sue? I often find these columns helpful when I am going through a similar situation and need advice. Well, today I read an interesting Dear Ellie in the local paper. Ellie is a Toronto-based advice columnist.
The problem of the reader was something along these lines from what I can recall. (but is not exact.)
I was diagnosed with obesity by my doctor and this was a wake-up call for me after living a life of inactivity and over-eating. I’m in my early forties. I have lost over seventy pounds, but still have more to go.
I love this time of year with all the holidays, seeing friends and family at gatherings and parties. The part I really dislike about this time of year is all the food. I have a lot of issues around over-eating, and once I start eating desserts and rich foods it is very difficult for me to stop. The best thing for me to do is not being around these types of temptations all together.
The problem is, anytime I host a gathering, people still bring unhealthy foods to my home although they know my struggles and I am trying to lose more weight. It is very frustrating because I am often left with tons of left-over cakes, cookies, pies and other goodies that I cannot refuse if it is left around the house.
What should I do this holiday season to prepare myself for success?
Ellie’s advice was very no-nonsense. She advised the reader to be upfront. Let everyone know in your circle that you are not eating certain foods (particularly desserts) because you are struggling with temptation and still need to lose weight. Be honest in hopes of getting their understanding and sympathy. If sending out invitations, Ellie advised to have printed on them, please bring a veggie or fruit tray if wanting to contribute something.
Ellie also replied that if people still bring unhealthy choices to the reader’s party, that she should make sure to pack them up and send them back with the person who brought them.
For many, the holidays can bring forth issues in the way of your pesky aunt asking why you’re still single. Your cousin’s bratty kids who are running wild around your China platter or yanking your dog’s tail. The stress of prepping and preparing. For others, it is food addiction. Food and sugar addiction is a very real problem for many people. Some people who are trying to avoid these foods do have to stay away from them altogether to be successful and this can be difficult around the holidays when food is the centre of everything. For some, moderation does not work for them at the moment and they do not know how to moderate. I know how this reader must be feeling with her issues around food this time of year. There is always so much temptation. The amount of food at events and gatherings can be over-whelming and scary when you are trying to lose weight. I think it would be in everyone’s advantage attending a party with only healthy options once in a while, especially if you know there is someone who needs your help and support to be successful. I personally would not have a problem if a host requested healthy foods only. I would like to think I would be on board to help in any way I could.
How would you handle an invitation that stated, please only bring healthy foods?
What would your advice be to this lady if you were the advice columnist?